Keys to Conversations With Young Men - Part #1

     What comes to mind when you hear the word mystery?  "It was a dark and gloomy night....", the crime-fighting detectives Sherlock Holmes or Nancy Drew,  the elusive "Scarlet Pimpernel"  or perhaps all of the above came to mind as you read the word.  But how many of you had a godly young woman pop into your imagination upon hearing it?  Would you believe me if I told you that mystery or mystique is a key characteristic to a godly young woman?

Let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart...

1 Peter 3:4

    Translated "hidden", this Greek word can also mean concealed or secret.  It refers to the deep, intimate part of who we are.  It isn't only detective stories that should be shrouded in mystery but also we as young ladies.   This is an important thing to keep in mind when we engage in conversations with young men. 

     Girls have this amazing ability to 'spill their guts' with anyone who is willing to listen.  Every girl has been designed to give her heart away....to her husband.  The danger is giving it away to the wrong person. Our heart is like a treasure chest, filled with dreams, desires, emotions, feelings, thoughts and fears. On your wedding day, do you want be able to give your husband a full chest or one that has been half emptied because boyfriend #1 has that piece and crush #55 has been handed that jewel of a dream?  We need to be cautious even in giving little parts of our heart away to the wrong person.   One of the best ways to guard our heart is to guard our conversations.
     Just as women have been designed to give their heart away, men have been created to win the heart of a woman.  Nowadays, practically all men have to do to win a girl's heart is listen and pretty soon they are hitting the "that was easy" button.  A possible prince doesn't need to gain the respect and honor of a young maiden, showing her he is worthy of her heart, if it is handed over to him.  Ladies, we do a huge miss favor to young men when we open wide the floodgates of our hearts for them to obtain full access to if they wish.  We leave ourselves vulnerable and leave men void of the opportunity to win our hearts if they so desire.

If you are interested in a young man, the best thing you can do is to let him pursue you.  Or like Elizabeth Elliott said:

"Wait on God.  Keep your mouth shut."

     But why is this really all that important?  The answer to this question is simple, our lives should be all about Christ.  In our conversations, it is easy to make ourselves the focus.  The message to young women today is get in the way of a young man's focus, but the call of Christ is to get out of the way.  We should be pointing everyone we meet to our Savior through our words.  May Christ be honored and may the young men we know be pointed to Jesus Christ.    

      There is no better way for the beauty of heaven to come cascading through our lives 

than to get out of the way so that He can be clearly seen. 

Leslie Ludy

 

 

Be sure to check back next week for part #2!  Let's make it practical....